Chemistry is having the ability to get along with other people in times of agreement and in particular, disagreement. Nothing kills group morale quicker than a person who is unable to get along with others. With this said, understanding conflict is CRUCIAL to chemistry.
Conflict or disagreement is inevitable. Healthy churches don't have an absence of conflict, they know how to manage it well. When there is a disagreement, we look for 3 chemistry character traits in people:
- Engagement - Will the leaders engage the person when there is a problem OR ignore it and hope it goes away?
- Tact - Can the person communicate their disagreement with the other tactfully and respectfully?
- Staying connected - Does the other stay relationally connected and work through the conflict constructively OR do they "pick up their toys and go home?"